I suppose it may be impractical to think that I’ll blog every day. I can try my best, but it’s almost inevitable that I’m going to miss a day or two. Part of living the life I have is to also forgive myself when I fall short of my own expectations. (All the time.) So it’s okay if I miss a day here and there. Maybe some people can blog every day without fail, but I’ll just have to accept that I’m not one of those people.
While I’ve been dog sitting, I haven’t been keeping up with Goal #1(Finishing my book and getting it published) so well. Having a dog is really very time consuming. Also, she likes to stick her nose in my ear during the night to make sure I’m okay and still alive. One she discovers all is well she goes back to sleep, but that still doesn’t prevent her from doing it the next night too.
I did go to yoga today, so that’s something! I’ve been wanting to go for awhile and then putting it off and putting it off and putting it off. So instead of going to barre class like I said I would, I went to yoga. Well one or the other, at least I did something. So at least I did some work towards goal #2 (Moving up to the next level in ballet).
Tomorrow dog goes back to her own and I can get down to writing (hopefully).
I saved it on my computer ages ago and every so often I’ll stumble across it and fill it out again. The idea is that your waking hours are broken into 10 minute chunks and every chunk or block you have you’re making a decision about how to spend it. So you fill out the chart and then you can see how you spend your minutes, your hours and your days.
It really is fascinating to see it all laid out before you – all the minutes wasted (or not) on Netflix. The huge chunk of time that a 9 to 5 (ahem – 6 or 7) job takes up. How much time it takes to cook and clean and generally be an adult and get done all things you have to do to be considered “responsible”.
(Hint: You really only have about three hours of free time if you sleep 8 hours, work a regular job and take care of all the things you need to.)
And here’s where it comes to deciding. Is watching one hour of TV worth five blocks? Is cooking (and then washing up) worth five or six? It’s laid out before you all the time you do and do not waste, and then it’s up to you if you want to continue to live your days in the same way. An excellent, more detailed companion to the article I mentioned a few days ago – How to Live Wisely. Happy blocking!
Oops! Day 4 and I already skipped a day of blogging! I don’t even have a good excuse. Just watching Miss Fisher’s Murder Mysteries. It’s just so good. (If you haven’t seen it go watch it now!) This is why I try not to watch TV on the weeknights.
Sometimes I think I spread myself too thin. It’s why I had to write down a list of my goals – the things I really, truly want to accomplish in the next year. I just tend to overestimate what I can do in a day. Here’s my list: French lessons, write, meditate, blog, stretch, read, journal, clean, photography class and floss. I’m trying to make all of these into habits, but each one chips away some willpower throughout the day so when I try to get things done at night, I’m too tired. (Plus work chips away a whole lot of willpower.)
Luckily, I’ve already turned French into a habit. I’ve been doing it steadily for the past six months and so now when I wake up in the morning I don’t even have to think about it. I accidentally skip a day here and there, but for the most part it gets done with no problem and no thought or willpower drainage. The power of habits!
So now my plan has changed. Instead of trying to do everything, I’m just going to focus on one or two things and make them into a habit. Then I can add more and more and stack them up until I have them all. 🙂
Since I want to have my book on the way to being published in the next year I think the most important focus is writing.
Every morning I get up and I read the news. Sometimes I only read the arts section or do the crossword puzzle, or some days I immerse myself deeply in all the the goings on of the world. I miss somethings some days, and other things other days, but without fail I always read the articles about improving your life. (Clearly this is an interest of mine.)
Several years ago a read an article called How To Live Wisely. It’s a pretty typical article about improving your life, but there was one thing which struck me. And that’s to make a list. Well, actually two. First, make a list of activities or things you highly value and then track how you actually spend your time. Do they match up? For me they rarely do. And I think for most people they rarely do.
For some reason I’ve taken to calling these Life Gaps – how I wish I spent my time vs. How I actually spend my time (more on that tomorrow). Part of the point of this blog is to try and make sure they match up more in the future than they do now. And of course that’s not everything, but it is important to remember:
“How we spend our days is, of course, how we spend our lives.
I was driving to work this week and for some reason it dawned upon me that I don’t particularly like my life. Sure, it’s fine, but there’s very few things I do on a day to day basis that I enjoy. Reading, watching Miss Fisher’s Murder Mysteries, writing in my journal. Those are all fun (solitary) things, which enjoy, but the life I currently lead is vastly different from the life I have in my head. (Maybe not vastly, but some hyperbole is allowed.)
So I’ve decided to change my life. Today is (music swells) the first day of the rest of my life. And a Sunday to boot, so how fortuitous – unless you think the week starts on on Monday.
But, back to changing my life. This day next year, I want my life to be closer to what I want. Closer to who I want to be. So here’s what I want.
Novelist – I’ve been working on a novel for the better part of the past year. It’s a children’s book which I find amusing, but I’m not sure if anyone else will. So this time next year I want agents to have been queried, publishers to reject me and hopefully one who’s accepted me. Maybe I’ll have a pile of rejection letters, but at least it’s out there in the world.
Ballet! I wrote a few posts about ballet and have not really done much. Work and life gets in the way, as it does to all things. This time next year I want to have moved up to the next level at my studio.
I want a promotion. This is a bit tricky because someone has to leave for a position to even be open unless they add more teams and jobs. But too often I get in my own way and curtail my ambitions, so if I position comes open, I’m going to apply.
Get out of credit card debt – Ugh this is the worst. I racked up a bunch when I was unemployed and I’ve been paying it off pretty aggressively, but I think by this time next year I should be out of it or almost out.
In a relationship – This would be nice, but would be like a bonus to my life (the frosting on the cake, as it were) rather than something I really truly want to aim for.
So there we have it. The things I really want out of the next year. Of course, there’s tons of other things I want to do as well: learn French, how to fly a plane, go on a trip, learn to play the piano. But those are other things for other days and other years and right now I’ll just focus on these. Maybe on July 23, 2018 I can put some of those on my list.