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Day 365: 1 year Check In

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Well I mostly abandoned this blog for the past few months, but it’s been a year since I started realized I was unhappy with my life and so it’s time to check-in again.

  1. Work on my Novel – I’m done! I’m just researching and querying agents now. My goal was to already have queried agents and to have a stack of rejection letters. I currently have neither, so we’ll have to keep this one on the docket for next year.
  2. Ballet – I’ve been going to ballet and pilates on a regular basis. Bad news is my ballet class moved farther away from me so it’s going to be harder to get there. I don’t know if it’s feasible for me to continue going there since it takes up a good chunk of my day. Maybe I can find a way to make it work for me.
  3. Promotion –  DONE! 
  4. Get out of credit card debt –  DONE!!
  5. In a relationship – Still online dating. It’s kind of taken a backseat to my work life right now, but after I complete this one project, I should be free for a little while.

I’m not entirely unhappy with how this year went. I read a lot of books about women or men who make up their minds to do something and then by their self-imposed deadline, it’s somehow magically done (with a lot of hard work). Life doesn’t always work like that. Sometimes it moves forwards in stops and starts, or sometimes it moves forward in great big leaps, or sometimes we slide back into the places we’ve already been. All of which happened to me in the past year.

So the big question. Am I happier now than I was on this day last year? Yes and no. I feel like I’ve made some big strides in my life, but I also feel it a little lacking still (I think this is a trait of my personality and not because my life is bad). If I don’t feel happier, then I at least feel more content.

Until tomorrow. (And Next Year!)

 

Day 310 :Monthly Check-in Pt. 10

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Helloooo! It’s been awhile because I’ve been busy (as always). It’s almost Summer, almost the end of my year project, almost time for another. And now it’s time for a check in.

  1. Work on my Novel – Almost done my book! I just have a few last things to add and then I should be done. I also have a draft query letter, and a list of agents to send it to once my book is all done. I’m aiming to finish by this weekend since I don’t have many plans, but I always aim to do that and then end up watching Netflix for hours and hours. Maybe I should go to a coffeeshop this weekend and power through. We’ll see. By July 23, I should at least be querying agents. Call it a half win?
  2. Ballet – I have been going again! After months and years of telling myself I’m too tired, and not good enough, I’ve been going on a regular basis. I think going to Pilates and yoga also has something to do with it, since I’m constantly feeling good from exercising, and I keep wanting to feel that way. I won’t move up to the next class level by July 23, but maybe by the end of the year if I feel up it it. Fingers crossed!
  3. Promotion –  DONE! 
  4. Get out of credit card debt –  DONE!!
  5. In a relationship – I started online dating again. I only took a break for two months or so and then my friend got engaged and my other friend got a boyfriend. So here I am. Expect me to take a break again in a couple months. Haha.
  6. Cleaning my life – Not part of my big five, but it’s my monthly goal. I’ve been doing okay at this. I gave some things to goodwill, cleaned out my car, and am in the process of purging my closet. It’s a process and will take longer than I want it to.

So that’s it! Despite not crossing off any major goals this time around, I do feel like I’m making progress that will pay off two to three months from now if I continue working at the same pace I am now.

I’m also almost done with “this year”, so while some my goals might stay the same for next year, I’m going to take the next few weeks to really think about my life and what I want it to be in the future. And then I’ll make a yearly goals to get there. Stay tuned.

Until tomorrow.

55 days to go.

Day 253: April Monthly Challenge

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Happy April! I have three updates for today! My March monthly challenge of meditating every day went pretty well! It was a bit spotty at the beginning due to travel and work, but I think I’ve gotten to the point where I’ll try to meditate every day. It really does kick start my day in that I can be more productive after I meditate, and I feel much calmer, and ready to face the day when I meditate. Definitely something I want to continue doing and incorporate into my life for the long term.

Update two! For the month of April, I’m going to take a photo every day and post it on Twitter. I think I decided to do this for three reasons:

  1. It’ll tie into my gratitude since I’ll be taking pictures of things I’m interested in and/or grateful for.
  2. It’ll tie into my meditation, because I’ll be forced to notice things instead of walking through life on autopilot.
  3. It’ll force me to get out of the house.

Feel free to follow me at @CupofJoyce. I’ll tweet pictures and random thoughts. That’s it mostly. And I’ll be providing updates over here, of course.

Update three! I was online dating for awhile, but I’ve decided to stop for the moment. No one was responding to me and I grew very disheartened and discouraged. I would still like to meet someone, but I’ll have to think of new ways of doing that. I’m not going to cross it off in my About Me section, but I think I’m going to grey it out for awhile. Meeting someone just seems impossible right now, and so I’m going to take a break.

I lied. Update four! I am making headway on my writing goals and joined a bunch of websites (which I paid for!) to look for agents. I would say I’m a quarter way done this edit and so once I finish (and write a query and synopsis) I will begin my quest for an agent. I’ll certainly be writing a few updates.

Until tomorrow.

112 days to go.

Day 94: Bumble Life

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Bzz. Bzzz.  I live in a major metropolitan area, which means there’s a whole bunch of people running around, but for some reason it’s also really hard to meet people as well. I had this grand idea that I would try a bunch of new hobbies and take a bunch of new classes and meet people that way. Whether they be friends or potential boyfriends, I was up for meeting new people.

Well…turns out I’ve taken a few classes and done a few meet-ups and they groups mostly consist of older women. Which is great! I’m happy to make friends that way and I have. But so far I haven’t met any men on my hobby quest, so I had to turn to online dating. I tried okcupid for the longest time, but I never really clicked with anyone and I felt there was a lot of expectation to jump directly into a relationship, which I just never felt like doing.

So I turned to Bumble, which is more casual than OK Cupid, but seems to be more serious than Tinder. I’ve met a few people so far, but I’m just content right now to see where things go. But if anyone has suggestions for where to meet good people, I’m certainly open to hearing about it.

Until tomorrow.

271 days to go.